Sunday, May 06, 2012

A headstone for Laila

I was worried that we would not get Laila's headstone in time for her birthday.  We went to visit the grave on Wed. (her birthday) and the stone was not there and I was slightly disappointed.  But then we got a message later saying that they had installed the headstone, probably some time after we visited the grave.  So even though we didn't know it, she did get her headstone for her birthday.

We went to see it today.  I'm very happy with how it turned out.  I'd rather not have to choose a headstone at all but since I don't have a choice, I'm happy with the one we had made for her.

We wanted to incorporate both butterflies and rainbows in the headstone.  The rainbows remind us of the weeks and months following Laila's death.  Each day we were blessed to see rainbows, sometimes multiple rainbows.  We not only saw them outside but saw them reflected in our house.  The appearance of them was comforting and while I have no idea if they were a message from God or from Laila, they brought us peace.

The butterflies remind us of a Family Home Evening lesson we had weeks before Laila was born.  We were anticipating a lot of changes to occur in our family in the coming months (Laila's birth, our move to Colorado, and Isaac starting kindergarten) and wanted to help the boys understand how change isn't always bad, even if it is hard sometimes.

We set them down and watched videos of butterflies coming out of their cocoons.  We talked about how it's a struggle to get out but that the struggle helps their wings get stronger and if we were to assist them in getting out before they were ready, we would hinder their ability to develop strong wings.


We discussed how they start out as a caterpillar and eventually change into something else--something beautiful.

Then we told the boys that while sometimes we go through trials and have things we have to struggle through, those trials can help us be stronger and help us be something even better than what we started out as.  We talked about all the changes our family would have to go through in the coming months and how those changes could be good for our family.

Then of course, Laila died just a few short months later and now that Family Home Evening seems even more appropriate.  I would say that we are still very much in the stage of struggling to get out of the cocoon but my hope is that in the end we will find our family stronger and more beautiful than we were before.










13 comments:

Megan said...

Adrianne, It is beautiful. Not somethign you want to have to do but you did beautifully. I love how I am a child of God is incorporated in. It definitely made me tear up. So sweet. Thank you for sharing.

Marcy said...

It's beautiful.

Jed and Kera said...

It is beautiful and I'm happy it made it in time. It sure took a long time, but it was worth it I'm sure. We love you!

Greta said...

I can't think of words to say but tears fill my eyes as I look upon it. How beautiful! Much love to you Sweetie!

chelsey said...

It's beautiful! So glad to see that it arrived for her bday!

The Duke said...

In all our conversation just now, you didn't mention the headstone came. It is truly beautiful the way you have put it all together. I'm so glad it has come and that it came on her birthday.

Megan said...

Beautiful. Your experience with rainbows reminds me of our friends who lost their 3 year old daughter to cancer last year. They also had an experience with a rainbow that brought them much peace. It's amazing the ways Heavenly Father speaks to us to comfort our hearts. If you're interested the link to their rainbow experience is here

http://madisblessing.blogspot.com/2012/01/week-three-cruise.html

P.S. You have a really beautiful voice. Your kids are so lucky to enjoy your amazing gift.

GrumpyJaxMomOf3 said...

Amazing!! Your strength, your courage, your faith, you all of you are amazing. I am sorry that you had to choose a headstone, but I can see why our Father in Heaven entrusted a perfect spirit to you!!!

James and Cari said...

What a beautiful message- I wish I could say all that's in my heart- I hope you can feel the hugs.

Laura said...

What a beautiful headstone for a beautiful little girl. You have been in my thoughts and prayers these past months!

Jess and Jason said...

It is beautiful!

Michelle said...

Beautiful headstone for such a beautiful daughter. I love what your family chose to put on the stone and I'm glad that it came in time for her birthday.

Sherry L said...

What a beautiful message to the world of your testimonies!